Hi, just wanted to give you an update. We had our 3rd FFN and another u/s today. The ffn was negative and my c*rv*x is holding at .5mm. Another positive outcome.
The good news is that I am going home. (I will be discharged on my 31st day here, imagine!) Because Doug and I are coping so well and not showing any significant signs of stress, they are going to let me try the next two weeks at home. The deal is I have to do everything the same as I did here and come back in two weeks. The bad news is that the c*rv*x is, up to its closed part, is wide open (vs funneling).
So even though the ffn is negative, it doesn’t mean that we have carte blanche – labor could be triggered by stress or too much mobility. The “bag of waters” (love that term) could break, and I could go into labor regardless.
For those keeping track – I’ll be 28 weeks Friday and Baby B is measuring at 2.lb, 11.oz. (1219gms). We are, old school, entering the 3rd trimester and 7 months.
Personal
As a personal favor, I do want to just ask people to be circumspect in their enthusiasm! Yes, we have made it through these 4 weeks and hitting 28 is a benchmark and we are glad. But it’s not a guarantee of any sort. I appreciate all the support so I really hate to be this candid but please don’t assume because we are going home that everything is safe. I also don’t want links about preemies, stories about babies who’ve made it, assurances that it will all be all right. To be told continually that “it’s all going to work out” when even our doctors cannot assure us of that makes me feel not only invalidated but worse, like I am being a diva, a hypocrite or a hypochondriac. Fear is actually a GREAT thing in this case because it motivates us like nothing else not to “cheat” and get up! So just kind of chill out folks, we’re still hanging a bit!
Help
To help us, we may be very lucky to have my good friend Heather’s mom Pam staying with us Mon-Weds and my sister may come up on Fridays. THANK YOU!
Visitors
Believe it or not, it’s far more stressful being on bedrest at home. There’s more food prep, no towel service, no reassuring nurses, more “things to do”. So just to be brutally honest –I am going to try having no visitors for these next two weeks – including family! I know it sounds contrary to what the bedrest experts say, but because of my personality and my need to “hostess”, visitors at home actually cause more stress (parking, sitting up to chat, worrying about cleaning) then comfort. I really really need to just rest and deal with the change of being at home. Ok? Ok! Thank you
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