WHAT I THOUGHT
The more I think about our conversation the other day, the less I am inclined to let it go. Although I think I handled it poorly, in terms of cutting you off before you fully expressed yourself, what I am realizing now is that the implications of your conversation – the being “put out” a bit and the being frustrated/angry at my lack of communication – is really an issue that you have, and not one that I’m comfortable being thrust on me. Over the last several months, over the course of knowing you, you have often times been quick on the defensive, seeing slights and injuries where there are none. Or where you could have perceived something better about the other person and chose not to. For example some mothers in the group, or the lack of response from A, or B. The “choosing to assume someone is less then they are more”. In the cold light of day, a day later, I’m realizing that although I didn’t follow up with you and can clearly see that you might have been confused or hurt, the fact that your FIRST instinct about why I hadn’t touched base was a negative one, tells me something about where you are in your life right now. The fact that I haven’t communicated is justifiably offensive surely. But your anger is disproportionate to our relationship, and your expression of it, in this “post therapy letting me know how you feel era” was inappropriate.
WHAT I SAID
...ok, well, I'm glad you told me then...
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